Dear friend's significant other,
I have friends with boyfriends. And, contrary to popular beliefs, I have no problem with that at all. The thing that enrage me is when my friend's significant other does not acknowledge my existence at all. I know you are dating my friend, but that doesn't mean that I don't exist. I have opinions, wants, and emotions.
As a lot of my close companions would say, I can be a pretty scary person, especially if you don't know me. However, I am not cruel. If we all are hanging out together and you wanted some coffee, and if you communicated with the rest of the group, I have no problem with it and would definitely say yes and that it's not a problem.
I have a problem when we are all hanging out together and you decide to do your own thing without consulting the group. And then it affects people in the group and you're completely oblivious to that. I hate the fact that, to you, I am not important and you act like I don't exist. I know you are dating my friend (and not me), but I think I deserve at least a small amount of your recognition.
Honestly, I don't expect you to do something I don't expect of myself. When you are around and I'm making coffee, I make more than just one cup of coffee. I don't do that out of the kindness of my heart. Trust me, I'm not nice. I do that because you are there, hanging out with my friend. I respect you and I acknowledge you as being a part of my friend's life. It would be very preferable if you could respect me and acknowledge me as being a part of my friend's life.
Please don't be surprised if I'm not too excited to see you. At least I'm not inflicting pain upon your life. Yet.
Sincerely yours,
A scorned me
